Let's start this blog with an easy example to understand. Suppose you are going to install new flooring in your home, would you determine how much material to order by measuring the dimensions of the room with a random stick? Probably not! You'll obviously use a measuring tape that would accurately calculate the dimensions. But when it comes to measuring self- worth, many people use something just as unreliable as that random stick! They literally don't understand their value and think they are inferior!
We all surely use that "random stick" to determine our value as human beings (at least once). That's the reason why you feel like you have totally fallen out, and your self- esteem can soon plummet (fall down at a fast rate).
To be short and precise, that random stick has so much influence on you. It makes you feel inferior in front of others. Are you even conscious of what you are using to determine your self worth? Wake Up!
So here are the 5 common ways you measure your self- worth:-
1]. Who You Are With
There are many different ways that people depend on to give them more value. One of the most common ways is that people think that their worth depends on how much praise he/she receives from others. They are totally dependent on others to calculate their worth! Another common way is that people feel worthy by surrounding themselves between important people, or simply the people who have a dominating nature. Rubbing their shoulders amongst such people fuels their self- importance. A busy social calendar and a lengthy list of personal contacts helps them feel valuable.
Believe me, such people are chasing a moving target.You can’t control other people and you can’t please everyone all the time. If you base your self-worth entirely upon how others perceive you, you’ll never be able to receive enough praise or positive reinforcement to feel good about yourself. SO BE INDEPENDENT!
2]. What You Do
A career helps many people feel valued. Some people are quick to say something like, “I’m the co-founder of my own firm,” or “I’m a lawyer in private practice” not because it’s what they do—but because it’s who they are. Their career reinforces to them that they’re “somebody”. Their personal value is totally dependent on what they do.
This is done by most of the people, but believe me, this is a BIG RISK! Anything like a health problem, economic downturn, or unexpected shift in the market may disrupt your career. Thus disrupting your personal identity! Even a planned retirement can cause a big havoc if your personal identity is entirely dependent on your post.
3]. How Much You Have
We surely meet people who measure their self worth by the size of their bank accounts. Many, on the other side, feel that they cannot acquire enough wealth to become "valuable enough". While it makes sense to place a monetary value on goods and services, it doesn’t make sense to use money to determine your value as a human being. The amount you earn, or the possessions you own, will never be enough to satisfy your need to feel worthy.
4]. What You Achieve
Sometimes people want to be known solely for their accomplishments. That person who brags about his/her latest accomplishments may only good about himself/herself when he/she is talking about their accomplishments. Or that person who just can’t stop beating himself/herself up about that time that he failed might struggle to move on because that single incident crushed his/her self-worth.
Its normal human behavior that your accomplishments make you feel good, but basing your entire self- worth on it is like building a home on an unsteady foundation. You'll need to face repeated success in order to keep feeling good about yourself- and it's damn hard. You will surely have to face failure at times, so, don't ever think of basing your self- worth entirely on your accomplishments.
5]. How You Look
While some people measure their self- worth using the above 4 ways, others determine their self- value based on their ability to attention with their appearance. Marketing agencies use this to target our insecurities about everything, from weight gain to aging.
If you were fortunate enough to be blessed with good looks, your beauty may serve as an advantage in life. But a handsome face or beautiful body won’t last forever. Wrinkles, middle-age spread, gray hair, or a receding hairline can be catastrophic for someone whose self-worth depends on their appearance!
The way you choose to measure your worth as a person is a major factor in the choices you make , the thoughts you have about life, and of course the way you eel about yourself. Remember that the random stick you are using to determine your value as a person and measure your self- worth is based on your control. When you know who you are—and you’re pleased with the person you’ve become—you’ll maintain a sense of peace throughout life’s inevitable ups and downs.
Measure your self-worth by who you are at your core. Doing so will help you focus on behaving according to your values, instead of chasing things that will only temporarily boost your self-esteem.
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