What 'Sanakaras' do parents wish to give their child?

Disclaimer: I am writing this blog based on my perspective of thinking on this topic. Please bear with me if your thinking is different.

So, I would like to start this blog by asking some ‘quizzy’ questions to the parents. Here they go:-

1]. What Sanskaras have you passed on our children?

(now you must be in the thinking that what is he talking about? I know that parents try their best to inculcate good values in their children, but I bet if they have ever thought about this question. Now wait until you read the second question…)

2]. Are Sanskaras more than just ‘values’?

3]. What Sanskaras would you really like to inculcate in your children?

4]. Are the Sanskaras you have inculcated in your children capable enough to help them face the world in the latter part of their life?

5]. Are the Sanskaras of one family, community, religion or nation different from those of the other?

Finally, the questions are over. Now lets stick to the topic.

Sanskaras, to my mind, can be best defined as a set of values, principles and practices that we inherit from our family, culture, religion and the history of our nation. Basically, there are the essence of what we have been taught, or learnt from from experience, passed down from one generation to another.


But, it certainly is also the parental duty to be conscious about what they are teaching to their children and being able to furnish the right explanation for it.

So now, what Sanskaras do you wish to transfer to your child? Here’s my list:

Sense of Integrity: Honesty should be the foundation of a person’s life structure. Thus, children must be taught the importance of being true to your own- self as well as to others. I believe that a person who follows the dictates of his conscience is the one who can live and sleep peacefully.

Love and Respect Yourself: Before you can learn to love and respect others, it is very important that you first learn to love and respect yourself. This can be only achieved if you are satisfied with everything you have earned if your life. It can come by following the dictates of your inner voice. Never downgrade yourself, nor imagine yourself any less than others.

Be Sensitive to Others: Children must be told about the importance of being sensitive to other people’s needs and feelings. Charity is an important virtue and comes from a heart that is warm, loving, and accepting of all.

I got an interesting thought on this topic:

“Be the tailor's needle, which passes through every cloth without making a distinction.”

Fulfilling your potential: According to me, winning is not always an option, it is far more important to know that you have done your best in whatever you do! To avoid wastage of effort and time, it is important to understand your inclinations and have an idea of the purpose of your life.

Educate Yourself: Arm yourself with knowledge, for knowledge is power. Children must be encouraged to acquire as much learning as they can. Arming themselves with degrees is as important as increasing the scope of knowledge by reading further, and trying to acquire knowledge in areas that interest them or are relevant to their field of work.

Act on Your Conviction: Children must be encouraged to be brave enough to strike out into the world rather than just be fence-sitters. Be a doer, not just a participant in life. For this, just discover your inner passion and make note of your strengths and weaknesses and work upon them.

Sense of Fair Play: It is very important that children grow with a sense of justice. In case they do something unfair, they must be encouraged to make amends. Standing up for what is right is equally important and they should be encouraged to take stands in life on behalf of those who are less privileged.

Making choices: Life offers plenty of opportunities all the way through, and much of the way we lead life is dependent on the choices we make. Children must be taught to think through options and use their faculties in the best manner before deciding on an option. They must be also taught to stick to their decision, but when the situation demands, also be flexible and intelligent enough to change it!

Of course, making a list of the values you wish to pass to your child is far easier than helping them imbibe it, or even following it yourself.

Being a student, I realized that most of the children resist learning, but a child learns best by example.

Thanks for ‘extracting’ time from your daily routine in this lockdown time.

Hope this blog helped you and was interesting. Please feel free to comment on anything that you feel is incorrect according to you in this blog post.

So, goodbye till the next blog post arrives!